• Buddies,  travel

    Friendly Spontaneity

    Friendly Spontaneity

    Friday night I found myself in Redlands. Not a place I go to very often because it can take up to three hours to get there if you get stuck in traffic. But there I was in the middle of down town Redlands on an errand and since I was there, I thought I’d try to contact an old friend on her cell phone. I wasn’t sure if she still lived in town. I haven’t seen or talked to her in years. I wasn’t even sure if I had the right phone number. Which is all very sad considering this is the best friend I made when I was in second grade. SECOND GRADE!!!

    I was so surprised when she picked up. It’s been so long I had to tell her who it was because she didn’t recognize my voice. I was even more surprised when she told me I was only a few blocks from her house! She told me to come over right away and I was just in time to catch opening night of her latest production, “Joseph and His Amazing Technicolor Coat” at the Redlands Bowl and I MUST MUST MUST come! Well, how about that for suddenly filling up your night with fun filled activities without any preparation at all. My mom was with me, (like she always is) and of course she humored me (like she always does) and said she wouldn’t mind tagging along to see an outdoor show.

    It had been so hot all day. My mom and I were very thankful to go inside my friend’s house, sip ice cold lemonade and catch up before we headed off to the Bowl. My friend has two children now. Her oldest I’ve met a few times. He’s almost 13. She also has a two-year old little girl from her second marriage, a real cutie. It’s crazy how much has happened since we graduated in 1990. Neither of us ever thought things would turn out the way they did.

    All through high school she always teased me that I would get married and be “barefoot and pregnant” because I was the goodie-goodie church-girl with no plans for her future other than “whatever the Lord wills”. She was meant for bigger things like starring in broadway shows and making a name for herself in lights. She’s always been a theater nut and usually got a lead part in whatever play the drama department was putting on. But then we graduated and life threw us all a curve ball. She got married to a marine right out of high school, moved to England and had a kid less than a year later. I got kicked out of my church going life and started a career in advertising of all things. Our paths couldn’t have been farther apart.

    When she got divorced a few years back, we wrote letters and tried to keep up but distance won out and we really didn’t keep in touch. When she got married the second time, I flew to Florida (home of her new husband’s family) to attend. That was the first trip I took my mom on, just me and my mom. So it was fitting that on this spontaneous Friday reunion, my mom was there again.

    After the wedding, even though we promised that we’d keep up, life got in the way again. Three houses later and a second kid happened for her and here I am almost four months pregnant and I’m showing up at her doorstep to tell her the news. I was so glad to be able to tell her in person instead of just sending her a birth announcement and shocking her. Now she teaches drama at a private school and builds theatre props in her spare time in her front yard! I’m just starting the whole pregnancy thing.

    But you know what? It was just like old times. That’s what I love about her. No matter what happens, no matter how much time passes, we’ll still be friends. She’s busy. I’m busy. And she doesn’t hold it against me! I haven’t had as much luck with my other friends from high school. The only thing I can think of that makes us different is that we are both happy with our lives. It’s easy to pick up with an old friend who’s happy. It’s hard to pick up with an old friend who’s not. I’m not saying I’m a fair weather friend. I’m as loyal as they come. It’s just that life and situations come between you and if you find yourselves on unequal ground, it just gets harder and harder to relate to each other. I wish so much that I could just pick up the phone to all my old friends and say, “Hey! What’s up!” and not have to feel guilt for all the years that have gone by without doing the things that friends do. I love it that I don’t ever feel like this friendship is a duty or a responsibility. I know I’m lucky to have such a friend and I’m going to do my best to do a better job in the future! Even if she does live in Redlands!

    By the way, I filmed a little clip of her show. It was fantastic. Outdoor theatre is always a great thing to do on hot summer night. My friend designed and built all the props but you can’t really see them because we were sitting in the “crew” section, which meant off to the side and not as close. Plus the camera I used is my mom’s spy camera (hers is still working!) and filming with a little itty bitty camera doesn’t always make for the best picture quality. But if you’re a die hard “Joseph and his Amazing Technicolor Coat” fan or maybe you’re Clownfish and you like Elvis renditions, you might enjoy it. Here it is . (6 meg Quicktime movie)

  • Beach Bits,  movies,  travel

    Crashing the Boy’s Weekend

    Crashing the Boy’s Weekend

    Sometimes I think I lead a charmed life. I can’t believe some of the amazing adventures I’ve been on and many of them totally not planned. When I stop and think about how when I met Toby, he was practically living out of his car and delivering pizza and now he’s one of the most sought after photographer’s in Orange County, my head spins. It’s like my fairy tale has come true. I never married Toby for his money because he had none back then! But today I’m a lucky lucky girl who gets to enjoy the perks of being a photographer’s wife. I always believed in Toby and thought he would be great someday. But I never dreamed up this kind of life.

    Like tagging along on a fishing trip to Catalina Island on a luxury yacht that even Beyonce and Jay-Z would be proud of!!! It was something else! I’ve never been on such a nice boat before. The six and five year old boy’s were not too thrilled that I was allowed on. They were under the impression that it was a boy’s weekend only. But Toby was shooting the boys for a brochure he’s working on and the Dad’s thought they could wrap the whole thing up in one business/pleasure event. I came along because Toby has that nasty cough and he needed an excuse to get a hotel on land while they all slept on the boat. I thought that was a grand idea. A hotel night on Catalina Island! Bring it on!

    One little itty bitty thing I didn’t take into consideration before I signed up: Riding a yacht to Catalina is a little rockier than taking a heliocopter. In fact it was downright just like having morning sickness. I puked three times. Good thing I’m an old pro at this puking thing. It was just like being in my first trimester all over again. Thankfully once we got to solid land, the nausea went away. Phew!

    We moored at a place called “Moonstone Cove”. It’s got to be the prettiest little cove if you’re not counting Toby’s Dad’s cove up in Northern California. There is a little dock and a small rock beach perfect for learning to skip stones on. The land is private but since we had connections, we said we were guests of the local country club and had a nice time lounging in the shade of the trees.

    After washing down the boat and a little rest on the dock, we took a small dingy over to Avalon. (You can’t moor the big boat at Avalon because all the moorings are spoken for and you have to rent one from somebody who already owns one.) I wish I had better pictures of the crazy ride over but I’m using my 10D and my lensbaby that has the narrowest angle of view ever because it’s “fairly telephoto” (tobyspeak). It was pretty fun though, scooting over the water at 30 miles an hour with the wind in your hair and the water spray flying by you. When we pulled into Avalon there were boats every where. July is peak season for them. We could barely even squeeze into the dingy dock and had to jump from dingy to dingy just to get to shore.

    When we got on land we had a terrific lunch and then the boys got ice cream for the big photo shoot. Toby really had a time of it getting the boys to act like models and not crazy hellions. He was trying to get a nice picture of them enjoying ice cream with the landscape behind but he almost got ice cream on his lens instead because they kept lunging at him. It’s a dirty job, but somebody’s got to do it.

    After the quick photo shoot, we went on a glass bottom boat ride. The water was pretty murky so we didn’t see much besides the very well trained fish that follow the boat around to get fed. The visibility wasn’t as great as it was the last time we went several years ago. You might remember this movie from that trip.

    Then the boys left with their dad’s for a barbecue back at Moonstone Cove and lots of fishing and we stayed in Avalon to take night shots of the harbor. It was the most pleasant summer night you could imagine. I don’t have any shots because Toby made me leave my camera at the hotel so I could help him carry his gear. His hand started swelling up again and this time it was his right hand so working with a camera and a lot of gear was a little stressful for him. Maybe later I’ll post one of his. Of course his shots look like postcards but then what do you expect?

    Sitting up at the top of the hill looking down at the harbor full of boats and the Casino all lit up was the most pleasant thing I could think of to do on a perfect night like that. The temperature was just right and there wasn’t even a breeze. Above it all we could hear the squeals and laughter of all the people below enjoying the summer like only vacationer’s can. Avalon almost reminded me of how festive Mexico can be on warm nights like this. It was really amazing. We missed a comped dinner at the Catalina Country Club but weren’t too disappointed because when we got there, five minutes after they’d closed, there was a wedding still going on and the canned dj music was really cramping our style anyway. Instead we ate at a second story steak restaurant and dined by the open window so we could watch people go by down below. It was a perfect perfect weekend. Especially when you’re getting paid to be there!

    We stayed at the Hotel Atwater and it was nice. The walls were a little thin and the trash trucks dumping trash outside our window in the morning made us feel like we were back at home. But Toby really liked our view because outside there were two palm trees absolutely riddled with holes made by woodpeckers. He must have sat by our window taking pictures of woodpeckers for two hours or more. Hey, whatever floats your boat. I, on the other hand, took a nap! (For the baby of course!)

    I didn’t take many pictures on the ride back because I was so worried about getting sea sick again. I didn’t take my eyes off the horizon once. I did see a few dolphins and the tail of a whale though.