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Girl Just Wants to Have Fun
My niece, Amari, visited for three days last week. She takes her job of being a kid very seriously. She is full of energy, imagination, and constant questions and demands. I love her so much. We did everything I could think of to keep her happy and occupied. I take my job as Super Auntie very seriously.
We went on morning wagon rides around the park, picked flowers and lemons, told stories, read books, made smoothies, scones, and lemonade. We dug out her grandma’s Barbie collection from the depths of the garage, and I let her play with a few of the less breakable items.
She is such a lively firecracker. The toy that kept her entertained the longest was a squirt bottle filled with water. She squirted and “cleaned” everything. A lot of it went down her mouth. I remember doing that as a kid, too. Water tastes so much better that way.
She absolutely delighted me.
But I was also super glad when bedtime finally rolled around. Playing with a kid all day is exhausting!
Whenever I felt annoyed or tired of being chatted at so much that I couldn’t think straight, I reminded myself that we were making core memories. These are the things Amari will remember and carry on into her life. I feel so special to be part of her memory. I won’t go into details for privacy’s sake, but this little girl does not have an easy life.
I love that her childhood is filled with smiles and peals of laughter that come so naturally. Children are blessed with optimism. They seem to have plenty of serotonin.
Over three days, we had a crash course in all the fun: baking, tent forts, favorite breakfasts, and mouths full of whipped cream.
I even snuck a few hours away to make a doll with her. She chose the fabric and the hair color and then played with Grandma (my mom) until I could finish sewing it. Dinner got waylayed, and household chores fell by the wayside, like they do. I am Super Auntie, but I can’t do it all. I sure tried, though.
Painting, making messes, and getting lots of one-on-one attention were so good for both of us. I wish I had the resources to do this daily with her like I did with Bug.
We maximized the three days, and I look forward to the next intense Auntie time I get. Her mom promised me that we could do this regularly as she needs a break from momming too. I remember that exhaustion well. It takes a village to give a child have a happy childhood.
Amari is a lot. She goes, goes, goes like an Energizer Bunny until she falls alseep hard like a phone with a dead battery.
And then the next day she’s all charged up to 100% and off we go again.
I love this kid and her wild imagination. She is just like her mom was at this age. It’s like I get Rapunzel all over again.
When I look at the world through her eyes, I am filled with hope. I hope she has all the opportunities she deserves. I hope the obstacles she was born into make her strong and more independent than those who have gone before her. I’m scared for her and all the difficulties she will face, but I am not as full of serotonin.
But I’m getting as much as I can! We both are. We found this white dog (a Great Pyranese) and told him he looked just like Cody.
The end.
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Iowa or Bust!
And she’s off! I dropped Amber and Bean off in Redlands last Sunday. It was 104°F. We thought we’d hang out, have an iced coffee, walk down the little downtown and check out Orange Street Alley but it was way way way too hot to be out and about!
We tried though! We got our iced coffees, sat around in the air-conditioned coffee shop for as long as we could, and then quick-footed it down the alley with all the umbrellas and called it a day. Nice knowing you Niece-com-poops! Have a good life!
Just kidding. I wouldn’t give them a send-off like that in a million years. We might have kept our goodbye hugs short but we definitely made sure the daysbefore she left was really special. We had several “last chance” special outings. We went to the beach, we went to the pool, we went to Balboa Island and we went to the mall… we visited all of our special places (including Wahoos and the Shake Shack!) and tied up her visit with an extra nice bow. I’m so glad she was able to stay so long with me during such a tumultuous time and we were leaving on good terms. We didn’t even fight! It was really special to have this time to bond with her and Bean. I love them to pieces.
And yes, I miss them.
I mean, how could you not? Look at that innocent cherub face! All the memories of her interrupting my phone calls with high shrieks or throwing food from her highchair onto my white carpet have magically vanished away. What crazy psycho baby? I have no idea what you are talking about. She is a DREAM!
It was good for me to be in the thick of toddlerhood again to remind me that I’m good. I don’t need to do it all over again. Having only one child who is now an amazing teenager is not a bad gig. I’m very happy with my motherhood journey. Yes, I did want more kids but I’m lucky to have the ones I have now. There will always be children in my life, they just won’t always be mine. Sigh…
Amber took this photo of Bean sleeping on me. I’ll always have these memories and I can’t wait until they come back to visit, or maybe I fly out to Iowa and visit them! It’s possible.
Fly little butterfly, fly! You have a great big world out there for you and it’s going to be great.
In hair news: I decided to cut the “wolfie” into a regular “pixie.” I thought wrongly that the shorter I went the cooler it would be. Nope, I still sweat the same amount and I am sick to death of summer and all this sweating. I do like my super short hair though. It’s fun and super easy to take care of because no matter how I try to style it, it pretty much looks the same. So why try?! Bed head is taking some getting used to. I don’t love the crazy old lady tennis player wave I get sometimes but at least it’s entertaining. I hate it so much I rush to the bathroom sink and madly smash it down. Why does my hair have to be so free? It just wants to be full and escape my head. Note to future Brenda: do not cut layers above your ears. When will I ever learn???
xo