Comments on: Bug’s First Day of School

By: jt

jt — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 20:01:15 +0000

She has a lifetime of school ahead of her, why push it? She’s barely 3!

By: ?Pie mama?

?Pie mama? — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 06:33:20 +0000

I sat outside the door of my daughters preschool every day for the first 3 MONTHS! She was fine,didnt even know I was there. Her program was only 2 1/2 hours long though. You poor things! As much as I want to keep my kids close with me at all times-it is so great for them to get out and experience new things. My joking threat to my daughter daily is-”If you dont (fill in the blank) than I am going to homeschool you!” Your Bug sounds so much like my 1st!

By: maria

maria — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 02:35:47 +0000

My little girl isn’t at that age yet, but when I went to day care the first time my parents say that it was very tough the first day. They decided that it wasn’t going to work for me and started looking at different options.

Then, a week later I asked them when I could go back. From then on it was all good.

While I don’t know what I will decide for my own daughter I’m leaning toward not sending her to daycare/preschool, but waiting for kindergarten. I’d just say watch her cues like you have been and you’ll know what’s best for her. :-) You’re da mama after all.

By: Keli

Keli — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:49:53 +0000

Well, while MY drama queen isn’t even quite 2, she seems to have many of the same qualities as Bug. She has this desire to be a social butterfly, but there’s something inside of her that just doesn’t want to leave me. Just this morning at reading group, she sat in my lap and reeeeached out to go play with the other kids — but she wouldn’t get out of my lap. It’s hard, because I want to just snuggle her forever – but I know that it’s better for her if I give her a little push and let her explore on her own.

I am sure Bug will come around — next week will be better, and the week after that will be even better, etc.

Hang in there.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 17:24:06 +0000

Oh I feel for you and Bug. When my oldest was 4 we moved to a new state (military) and I decided it was time for him to go to daycare. That poor boy cried for weeks. The teacher was great though, she told me to stick with it or next year when he went to kindergarten was going to be very rough. I felt bad every day leaving him, but we made it through and that first day of kindy was great.

I blamed myself for keeping him home with me for the first 4 years of his life, but that was what worked and what I wanted to do.

Hang in there. I hope you don’t let the mommy guilt consume you (as it almost did to me).

((HUGS))

By: lynne

lynne — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 12:05:19 +0000

Oh wow what a huge, mamoth day for you guys. I hope the preschool situation get better. Mind you I think it’s normal to be traumatic intially, I remember I lot of us kids crying on the first day or so, everything is weird, unfamiliar and you can’t tell the time so three hours feels like forever. Happy to say we got over it and some of my nursery school pals are now pals on Facebook. Some of them are sans hair though which is a bit odd. What the class of 93 getting old. Never!

By: Kuky

Kuky — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 05:59:22 +0000

Poor baby bug. I hope she does better next time.

I know just what you mean when you say it’s like leaving your purse behind but worse. I always worry about Isabelle. Preschool scares me. No preschool for Isabelle.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 04:09:42 +0000

You will be fine and I also think its time for Baby Bug to go to preschool.
Don’t worry, she will settle in soon

By: Sharri

Sharri — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 01:30:52 +0000

It sounds very normal to me, although HEART-WRENCHING. I am a parent and a teacher. My son, who is in first grade now, STILL sometimes cries – but as long as you like the teacher, it will all be fine. You already talk a lot and process with Bug and that will be good. It will also be good just to let the first day crying go and NOT talk about it a bit too.

I’ve tried to normalize the nervous feelings my son has about school by saying something like, “A lot of people feel sad some of the time when they are at school and they also have fun sometimes too.” I don’t want my son to feel like he has to cry to show me that I’m important to him. And that he can have fun and still miss me.

Good luck! You’re already doing great!

By: katie ~ motherbumper

katie ~ motherbumper — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 01:14:38 +0000

I don’t think she was traumatized at all and she sounds like such a cute kid. My little lady started in September and based on my experience, it gets way better for everyone involved.