Comments on: spoiled? http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/ spy into my little life Tue, 22 May 2012 03:31:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Lauren http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18580 Lauren Sat, 03 May 2008 16:19:32 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18580 you made her world bigger with that easel, just like her chair that she can get in and out of as she pleases ... her world got bigger. that's good, not bad. you made her world bigger with that easel, just like her chair that she can get in and out of as she pleases … her world got bigger. that’s good, not bad.

]]> By: aunt kathy http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18539 aunt kathy Fri, 02 May 2008 03:33:06 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18539 When LeAnne was four I asked her why she drew on her sheets. She told me, "I didn't have any paper!" So, hurray for an easel with paper. Also when I was growing up we had a huge chalk board in our family room that I remember covered the whole wall. It was there from the time I could remember anything so I was very young when we got it. We used it too. With colored chalk too. When LeAnne was four I asked her why she drew on her sheets. She told me, “I didn’t have any paper!” So, hurray for an easel with paper. Also when I was growing up we had a huge chalk board in our family room that I remember covered the whole wall. It was there from the time I could remember anything so I was very young when we got it. We used it too. With colored chalk too.

]]> By: OMSH http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18538 OMSH Fri, 02 May 2008 03:06:33 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18538 There is a balance, but I have a tendency to allow for anything creative - paper, paint, markers, map pencils, crayons... as well as books. There is a balance, but I have a tendency to allow for anything creative – paper, paint, markers, map pencils, crayons… as well as books.

]]> By: ninabi http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18537 ninabi Thu, 01 May 2008 21:51:43 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18537 Art materials are tools for growing. I can't think of a better thing to buy! I think children can have too many toys (to the point where they flit or get overwhelmed when trying to clean up their rooms) but easels and art supplies are another matter. Very important! I hope BB enjoys the thrill of colors, shapes, lines and ideas. On paper. Not the sofa. Art materials are tools for growing. I can’t think of a better thing to buy!

I think children can have too many toys (to the point where they flit or get overwhelmed when trying to clean up their rooms) but easels and art supplies are another matter. Very important!

I hope BB enjoys the thrill of colors, shapes, lines and ideas. On paper. Not the sofa.

]]> By: cadiz12 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18536 cadiz12 Thu, 01 May 2008 18:26:08 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18536 i think the most important gift a parent can give to a child is the lesson to appreciate whatever they get, be it a mountain of presents or one very special item. i think the most important gift a parent can give to a child is the lesson to appreciate whatever they get, be it a mountain of presents or one very special item.

]]> By: Jennifer http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18534 Jennifer Thu, 01 May 2008 13:51:01 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18534 I'm another believer that things don't spoil children. I grew up poor didn't get much, and there was no romantic doling out of a small tin cup that was treasured forever, or anything like that. My husband grew up very well-to-do and never wanted for a thing, and we still have the same level of appreciation for gifts and special treats. I have a daughter slightly younger than BabyBug and I buy her what I know she will use for a long time and what I know she will love. As a result, we don't have 500 obnoxious toys, but she still has plenty of stuff. Teaching appreciation and value and love is not harder when they have stuff than when it's a rare treat -- you just have to give them the proper context. I also give my child candy once in a while, and I'm pretty sure we'll be able to help her have a healthy relationship with food, all the same. Teetotaling in any capacity makes it harder to teach the lessons, I do believe. I’m another believer that things don’t spoil children. I grew up poor didn’t get much, and there was no romantic doling out of a small tin cup that was treasured forever, or anything like that. My husband grew up very well-to-do and never wanted for a thing, and we still have the same level of appreciation for gifts and special treats.

I have a daughter slightly younger than BabyBug and I buy her what I know she will use for a long time and what I know she will love. As a result, we don’t have 500 obnoxious toys, but she still has plenty of stuff. Teaching appreciation and value and love is not harder when they have stuff than when it’s a rare treat — you just have to give them the proper context.

I also give my child candy once in a while, and I’m pretty sure we’ll be able to help her have a healthy relationship with food, all the same.

Teetotaling in any capacity makes it harder to teach the lessons, I do believe.

]]> By: BeachMama http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18533 BeachMama Thu, 01 May 2008 13:27:52 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18533 Although our kids have a lot of stuff, so do we! Hubby thinks that J is spoiled but, I remind him to look around at his tv, xbox, guitars... And then he realizes that we just have a lot of stuff these days. And sadly, we have so much less toys and stuff for the kids than a lot of my friends! I came from a family of very little and when we got stuff we treasured it. Hubby's family gave and gave so Hubby doesn't know what it means to wait for something. There is always two sides. I love the easel(we have the same one) maybe just hold off on a pro-easel until she is a little older :). Although our kids have a lot of stuff, so do we! Hubby thinks that J is spoiled but, I remind him to look around at his tv, xbox, guitars… And then he realizes that we just have a lot of stuff these days. And sadly, we have so much less toys and stuff for the kids than a lot of my friends! I came from a family of very little and when we got stuff we treasured it. Hubby’s family gave and gave so Hubby doesn’t know what it means to wait for something. There is always two sides.

I love the easel(we have the same one) maybe just hold off on a pro-easel until she is a little older :).

]]> By: Pumpkin http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18532 Pumpkin Thu, 01 May 2008 12:39:40 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18532 My husband and I have had many of those conversations! I would buy my kids tons of stuff if my husband wasn't stopping me. He came from a family that only got very simple presents only at Christmas and birthdays. One or two presents tops. My parents gave my brother and I things all the time and Christmas was HUGE as were birthdays. My husband and I have had many of those conversations! I would buy my kids tons of stuff if my husband wasn’t stopping me.

He came from a family that only got very simple presents only at Christmas and birthdays. One or two presents tops. My parents gave my brother and I things all the time and Christmas was HUGE as were birthdays.

]]> By: Amy http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18530 Amy Thu, 01 May 2008 04:36:46 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18530 If an easel helps you and the Bug get through the day then so be it. I can think of far worse ways for a child that age to be doing. (Hours of mindless TV for one.) Good for her to have her own artistic space, like her mom and dad! I agree with the above commenter, I bed Bug will be an awesome artist one day! If an easel helps you and the Bug get through the day then so be it. I can think of far worse ways for a child that age to be doing. (Hours of mindless TV for one.)

Good for her to have her own artistic space, like her mom and dad! I agree with the above commenter, I bed Bug will be an awesome artist one day!

]]> By: 180/360 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/comment-page-1/#comment-18529 180/360 Thu, 01 May 2008 04:08:01 +0000 http://secret-agent-josephine.com/blog/2008/04/30/spoiled/#comment-18529 I wish we had an Ikea here. The easel I bought is way too tall. And what a great deal for 20 dollars! I can only imagine what a great artist your daughter will be one day. :) I wish we had an Ikea here. The easel I bought is way too tall. And what a great deal for 20 dollars! I can only imagine what a great artist your daughter will be one day. :)

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